At a conference I went to at Utah Valley University a while back, Shannon Hale talked about how she juggled being a mom and a writer. For her, she gets a babysitter in the afternoons and writes for a few hours.
For me, I wake up an hour before my baby girl does and if all goes well, I get at least 45 minutes of writing. When I don’t hit snooze and when my daughter doesn’t decide to wake up earlier and when my husband isn’t running late and doesn’t need me to help him make his lunch.
I’ve been thinking a lot about how I can balance everything. During the day lately, I am lucky to be able to write an email in one sitting. This blog post is only happening because my daughter is eating. It’s easy to get overwhelmed. And easy to wonder, “What the heck am I doing? I can’t be a writer. I’m too busy being a mom.”
And that’s not all I am busy being. I’m a wife too. So my girl goes to sleep, but then I’m focused on spending time with my hubby, who’s been gone all day.
But I have to have something for me or I’ll go crazy. My book and blog are for me.
So, oh you wise writer-moms (or dads) out there, how do you do it? Impart your wisdom, pretty please.
Updated 9/16/10: Here’s a very encouraging quote from agent Mary Kole:
In fact, I think writers who have to find time to write because of other obligations are often more committed to their writing work. When you have all day to do something, you usually figure out a way to take all day to do it (the constant drama of someone who works at home and can’t afford to take a whole day to do one simple thing). A task stretches to fill the time allotted for it. But when you have to extract rare writing time from a busy work day, it becomes precious, like gold extracted from base metal in the ancient pursuit of alchemy. You focus more, you value your writing time more, you get more done.